Tag: reentry anxiety

If you’re feeling like you’re in the throes of pandemic reentry anxiety, you are not alone. I am right there with you. And I would imagine, based on the conversations I’ve been having lately with others, that many people are in a similar place.  

For the past 12+ months, we have all been in a continual state of crisis, stress and groundlessness that has significantly altered our lives. And now, suddenly, it’s like someone flipped a switch and declared the pandemic “over.” Except it’s not. People are still in the ICU fighting for their lives. People are still losing loved ones. We are still in a pandemic.  

What I’m noticing in my conversations is that the sudden shift from isolation to reentering the world has heightened peoples’ anxiety—and justifiably so. The fear, the worry, the overwhelm are all valid responses after more than a year of being immersed in trauma, grief, loss, isolation and enormous change.

“The fear, the worry, the overwhelm are all valid responses after more than a year of being immersed in trauma, grief, loss, isolation and enormous change.”

The common thread woven throughout the stories people have shared with me is the desire to not go back to the way their life was or the person they were before the pandemic. There is a wish to be more intentional, mindful, gentle and slow in easing into the new world we live in now and to integrate and maintain the new ways of being, feeling and thinking we’ve developed during quarantine. And there is also a deep, real fear of losing these new ways of being that have nourished and sustained us during this challenging time.

Asking the Larger Questions

The return to something or to enter something again is the fundamental definition of reentry. Except, in the context of the pandemic, what we are returning to is no longer the same. But I truly believe that resilience is inherent in all of us. You will find your way. 

If you find yourself lately asking existential questions such as, who am I? What am I doing with my life? What do I want to do with my life? What matters to me? rest assured these are perfectly human and natural questions to ponder, especially during a pandemic. It takes courage to sit with these deeper questions, not to mention it can feel scary to face them. But these questions are important ones to be asking and will help provide you with clarity and guidance.

While this time is certainly filled with anxiety, it also may be a moment to create more meaning in your life. For some, the pandemic has shown them what they can and cannot live without. What once felt necessary no longer is, and what has emerged is a spotlight on the things that matter most.  What matters most to you?

A friend shared with me recently that as the COVID restrictions began to ease, it felt as if a fog was beginning to lift in their own life. And they started to ask the bigger existential questions. They felt like they were on the cusp of a major transformation. I commonly see this happen after someone has survived a trauma and moved through the despair of their grief.  It’s like going from seeing everything in black and white to color and discovering your inner strength and resilience to survive incredibly hard things.

“It’s like going from seeing everything in black and white to color and realizing your inner strength and resilience to survive incredible hard things.”

I couldn’t help but think of these past 15 months like being in a cocoon. All of us undergoing a metamorphosis. The essence and structure of our lives changing shape. For some of us, our metamorphosis may have caused subtle, but powerful, small shifts; for others, cataclysmic, life-altering, big shifts. We have all changed and grown in some way.  

In a recent interview Oprah did with life coach Martha Beck, she asked her what was the greatest lesson she learned about herself during the pandemic. Martha quipped: “I really do not need that many pants.” Martha went on to share how she learned that less stimulation, more stillness and a slower pace is better for her nervous system. 

I’ve learned this lesson during the pandemic too. As someone who possesses some perfectionism tendencies and is prone to pushing and “being productive,” I’m learning how these patterns are not helpful or enjoyable for me. Like many of you, I’m in the process of unlearning what no longer serves me and integrating ways of being, thinking and feeling that are more aligned with what matters most to me right now.

Transitions are hard and painful. They’re also temporary. Eventually, we move through them and we learn something about ourselves. To borrow a beautiful and poignant quote from Bishop T.D. Jakes: “Pain always leaves a gift.”  

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Pandemic Reentry Tips

As you move through this time of transition, keep these things in mind:  

• You have agency.
• Make choices that feel right and true and safe for you—not what you think you should do or what you see other people doing, but what truly feels aligned with you.  
• This is new for all of us. It will take some trial and error to figure out what feels best.  
• Go gently and slowly. Take your time. There’s no rush.  
• Most of all, be kind to yourself and others as you move through this.   

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Further Reflection

Below are some reflection questions I have explored (and continue to explore) on my own and with trusted loved ones. They might also be helpful to you during this time of transition.